Showing posts with label winning. Show all posts
Showing posts with label winning. Show all posts

Monday, December 28, 2015

Participation Trophies

Today's post was written by Alison Moore. Alison is a senior Mechanical Engineering major at the University of Notre Dame. She is also a student in the Social Foundations of Coaching course taught by Play Like a Champion founder and director Professor Clark Power and Program Director Kristin Sheehan.  

I have been a fan of the Pittsburgh Steelers practically since birth. My dad grew up as a huge Pittsburgh fan and passed it on to our whole family, so I have been dressed in black and gold and waving Terrible Towels for as long as I can remember. My childhood was comprised of family road trips to go to Steelers training camp and attend games as a family, so despite the fact that I am away at school, where there is another important football team that consumes my life, I still do my best to follow the Steelers and my favorite players. 

Earlier this fall when a news story came out concerning one of my favorite players I was really intrigued: JamesHarrison, a linebacker for the Steelers, received considerable media attention after making a statement on Instagram about taking away his two young sons participation trophies:

"I came home to find out that my boys received two trophies for nothing, participation trophies! While I am very proud of my boys for everything they do and will encourage them till the day I die, these trophies will be given back until they EARN a real trophy. I'm sorry I'm not sorry for believing that everything in life should be earned and I'm not about to raise two boys to be men by making them believe that they are entitled to something just because they tried their best...cause sometimes your best is not enough, and that should drive you to want to do better...not cry and whine until somebody gives you something to shut u up and keep you happy. #harrisonfamilyvalues"

Harrison received several comments in response to this post, both positive and negative. Some people lashed out, and said that he was an awful parent for taking away the trophies his kids worked for, and that it should not matter whether or not they were first place trophies: Harrison should have been proud of them and accepted what they got. They criticized that it was an example of parents putting too much pressure on their kids on be perfect and that their best is never really enough. While I can understand how some people could interpret it that way, I am one of those who supported and agreed with what he did. 

In his comments, he reiterates how proud he is of his kids and that he will always be there to support them, and I think it is awful that anyone would accuse a parent of not supporting their children. I believe that his actions were justified, and that too often nowadays kids are being raised to think that they are entitled to a treat or a prize for everything they do, regardless of the effort they put in and the quality of the work they do. Personally, I was raised to always try to give 110% in everything I did (that was a frequent comment that my dad would make to me) and I know that having that philosophy instilled in me has made me the person I am today. 

This situation relates directly to a lot of conversations we had in the Social Foundations of Coaching class this semester. You want to show young kids that they are valued and that they can accomplish anything when they set their minds to it, without making them think that they can just get by without putting in serious effort. Coaches and parents often put a considerable amount of pressure on kids to perform a certain way, and while it may be a fine line to walk, I think that encouraging kids to do the absolute best they can do and rewarding them only when they truly earn something will benefit the child more in the long run. The values which we hope kids will learn from sports about integrity and hard work aren't going to be as meaningful if they think they will get a trophy just for showing up. 

It is pretty bold of Harrison to go so far as to take the participation trophies away from his children, and then post about it, but it really makes one wonder if this is what it is going to take to make people realize that you aren't always going to be a winner in everything you do.  

Tuesday, March 3, 2015

Keeping Fun in the Process

Today's blog post was written by Remy Lewis.  Remy is a Psychology Major at Purdue University North Central and is a former Division One Track and Field Athlete at Indiana State University.  He is currently an intern with Play Like a Champion.  He is also a Coach, Scout, and Trainer for Sports Prep NBA.

When most people are nervous, it is because they are focusing on the results: hitting the ball or striking out, making the shot or rimming out, getting the job or not, winning or losing.  When you focus on the results, there is a big chance that you will omit very important steps along the way.  Here at Play Like a Champion Today, I've been reminded of the importance of focusing on having fun along the way. As an athlete, I've worked for years on improving the things I can control (my running form, for example) and not letting the things I can't control (the whether) affect me.  

For example when a shortstop gets a batter out at first, he has has to 
  1. See the ball off he bat.
  2. Move in the direction of the ball.
  3. Get to the ball.  
  4. Get his glove to the ball.
  5. Catch the ball.
  6. Plant his feet.
  7. Get the ball out of the glove.
  8. Point his body towards first.
  9. Throw the ball to the first baseman.
After this point, the result is out of the shortstop's hands.  The first baseman then has to:
  1. Get to first base.
  2. Place his foot on the bag.
  3. Catch the ball.
While these 12 steps need to be completed for an out, I feel like we also should add "have fun" to the overall process. The out only happens if the above 12 steps, between two people, are completed before the batter's foot touches first base.  Based on the average speed of professional baseball players, these 12 steps need to take place in between 2.8 and 3.5 seconds. If players fail to complete one step in this process, then the desired result may not occur.  But if kids aren't having fun throughout the process, then kids also won't enjoy the game. Sometimes, coaches seem to focus more on detail-oriented drills than their players would like. However, this is because coaches know that if you learn the formula for success, then success will naturally follow. My father, Rick Lewis, one of the greatest coaches I know, has always told me that "The process is more important than the answer."  As a kid, I didn't understand this, but I've learned that that because the process gets the answer, the answer is the process.

After you have found the process that will get your desired results, commit to the process.  Practice that process until that process is the way you do what you do. Become the process or "commit to the script." Trust and believe in your hard work, preparation, and commitment.  You control the process you use.  Your process will control your performance and your performance will control your results. Don't allow your performance to be affected by focusing on the results or the negativity.  Above all, make sure that your process includes fun so that you are remembering to PLAY the GAME, and games are supposed to be fun.


Monday, March 31, 2014

A Hockey Battle: Overtime


Earlier this month, the high school hockey championship game for the state of Ohio was played in Columbus. After 7 overtimes, the game was declared a tie by the officials, and both teams were named co-state-champions. That much is agreed upon. In the aftermath of the game, some supported the decision to protect the health of the young athletes, while others, including many athletes, argued that the game should have been allowed to be played out until one clear winner was declared. the discussion continued here at the Play Like a Champion Today headquarters at the University of Notre Dame. In the following blog, Play Like a Champion intern Tony Kim takes the view that the game should have been played out, while Lynn Kachmarik, Director of National Growth for Play Like a Champion writes in support of the Ohio hockey officials.
 Lets Be Real: Winning, Hockey, and a State Championship.

Lets face it: the desire to win is within all of us. No one likes to lose and no one likes to tie. We all like to win, be on top, and be the champion. And yes, it is true that everyone who plays their heart out for every minute of every game whenever they put on the uniform that representing their team is a winner. But, those who battle to the absolute end to win over all are the champions. And most of the time in the end, there is one and only one champion. That was unfortunately not the case, though, with two hockey teams from Ohio.

On March 8th, two Ohio high school hockey teams squared off in the state championship game. One was the unranked underdog Northview High School from Sylvania . The other, number 1 ranked St. Ignatius from Cleveland.  It was a classic David versus Goliath story.  After regulation and seven overtime periods, the game was called in a 1-1 tie for the state championship.

I know what you’re thinking, “Why would they call it a tie after seven overtimes?!” Or, “Why would they not just have gone to penalties after the first two overtimes?” And maybe even, “That’s a shame. I know I wouldn’t want to share my championship with another team.” In my opinion, the last of these possibly presumptuous statements of thought resonates the most with most competitive athletes. Those who train to win and be number one are inherently selfish. So why end a game after eight overtimes? Why not just let the play go on until a winner is declared? Especially after seven grueling overtime periods, don’t you think the players themselves would want to seek the game’s eventual end? By not allowing them to do so after all of that time almost seems cruel.  In addition, it took away the chance for the Northview underdogs to upset number one St. Ignatius and the chance for St. Ignatius to be declared an undisputed champion.

Even the players and coaches for each team spoke as if they were ready and amped-up to play and fight out another overtime period.  Such readiness was described by team Captain, Harry Smith, of the Northview team:
We were energized for that eighth overtime.  We kept going back in the locker room and we kept telling each other, The next time we come back in here, were going to be holding the state championship trophy.' We were tired, but we were ready and didnt want the game to end that way. 

As both teams skated onto the ice, ready to play another grueling and passionate overtime period to determine the Ohio State High School Hockey Championneither of them expected to have the game called a tie before they even met for a face-off. So why call it without even playing just one more period?

 Well, the reasoning behind it may be one of safety.   
What happens if we go into the eighth overtime and a kid is exhausted and he doesnt keep his head up and gets run over and is taken out on a stretcher? Northview Coach Mike Jones said. If a kid doesnt skate off that ice because hes hurt, what kind of national debate is there going to be                then?

 Of course, the safety of the players is the most important thing to keep in mindespecially with a sport as hard-hitting, exhausting, and outright dangerous as hockey.  Without notice, a player couldve gotten checked into the glass so hard during one of those overtimes that he may not have gotten up after.

But thats hockey.  Those who have played hockey or know the game what-so-ever know that hockey is not a nice sport. You dont play hockey without knowing that youre playing one of the most dangerous games on this earth involving sticks, a puck that moves a hundred-plus miles per hour, and blades on your feet to move on a cold, hard, and unforgiving surface. There are hits; there are fights; there are enforcers wreaking havoc; there are teeth lost and dentists and oral surgeons making millions; and there are winners and most definitely losers. 

With a state championship on the line and outright glory at stake, the players were told to skate off and end this epic battle on the ice. Of course, even though the players’ safety should have and was put first and foremost by the officiating staffthey should have considered speaking with the coaches of each respective team to get their input on the eventual outcome of the game. By making such a decision without even considering the coaching staffs input on the matterit leaves a dry and bitter taste not only in the mouths of the coaches, but the players who sought out to hold that trophy in their hands and their hands alone in the end. And lest we forget, in sportswinning is a part of the game, but so is losing. In competitive sports, there have to be losers as well as winners. The fun of the game is in the competition. So now ask yourself this question: if you were these players, what would you have wanted? Wouldnt you have wanted to experience the fun in competition? Would you have wanted the championship to yourself and your own team or to have shared it? We all know the answer to both of those questions and in regards to the latterthe answer is most definitely not one that would involve any other teams fingerprints on the trophy.



 Game With No Winner Ends in Shared Title

Let’s look at the other side of this decision and discuss why I support the outcome to end this game when they did.  Let’s discuss the mission of high school sports as well as the message it sent to the players, parents and fans at a time when youth sports has become “win at all costs” and the number of youth sports injuries has exploded in our country.

How you define success as a teacher/coach, however, is critical in determining whether or not your student-athletes will experience a developmentally appropriate enriching experience through their participation in interscholastic athletics. At the high school level, the role of the teacher/coach in interscholastic athletics is to establish an environment that will facilitate success for all participants.  It was clear that the environment in the game had deteriorated to the point that those in a leadership role were concerned about potential injury to their student-athletes.  There needs to be no other reason to end the game as high school sports should not be a “win at all costs mentality” but a safe, education and learning environment for all.

I share a personal story from many years ago when I watched the championship game at the World Aquatic Championships between two National Teams representing Yugoslavia and Hungary.  Very similar to this outcome, the game went into 16 overtimes.  The competition went from sport at its highest level of conditioning, strategy and effort to one where very few players were even able to swim up and down the pool.  Starters were sitting on the bench exhausted, injured and mentally done.  When the game finally ended 2 hours longer than any game I had ever watched, there was no cheering but this overall feeling that it was over and disappointment.  I cannot even tell you who won because our discussion centered on why there was not a shoot-out when all the players were still in the game.  This was with our world’s best athletes in their sport.

Let’s go back to our discussion now about these two high school hockey teams in Ohio.  In the end, the decision was made for the health and safety of the players and I applaud this.  Nothing good happens in practice or competition when athletes are exhausted beyond normal conditions and this clearly was “beyond normal”.   We are also talking about young men who are not fully developed mentally and physically.  You add the physical and mental condition they were in and now their judgment and decision making skills are far less than normal for their age.  This is another reason why the game should have ended to make sure we as the adults are protecting each and every player on both teams from the exhausted decision that someone might make to lash out in frustration and exhaustion.

Clearly, in our society today, we want a winner and a loser.  Stories of poor coaching and abuse at the high school level are in the media daily.  If we as a society took a giant step back and openly discussed the mission and real purpose of high school sports, we would all applaud these leaders for putting their student-athletes ahead of one team winning over the other.  They fought hard and clearly were two teams who peaked at the exact same time and deserved to share in the championship title.  This was a victory for all.