To Play or Not to Play on Sunday?

Recently, we at Play Like a Champion have heard of a growing debate on whether or not Catholic sports leagues should schedule activities on Sundays. We've heard from partners on both sides of the divide from the theological to the practical. Should Sundays be reserved for Church and family time? Are sports a form of spirituality, that often involve the whole family? Will canceling Sunday games help to stem the tide of decreasing youth participation in the Mass? What about young athletes who are involved with multiple teams? If Sunday games are abolished, is there enough gym space available to fit the games in throughout the week?

To learn more about the issue, we turned to two partners: Dobie Moser of the Diocese of Cleveland CYO and Brian Milone of the Valley Catholic Sports League of Southern California. Their arguments are below. We would love to know what you think. To share your thoughts, please click the comment button at the end of the blog.                                                                                                

In Support of Playing on Sunday by Dobie Moser:

When dealing with complex challenges, seek out the simplest solution, and then discard it, because you are dealing with a complex situation.  Beware of a half truth: you may get the wrong half! These adages come to mind when considering the question of whether to ban Catholic youth sports games on Sundays.

Those who oppose holding games on Sunday are concerned about losing young Catholics.  They are asking important questions, such as why are only 20 – 30% of families in parishes attending mass and why are so few young people involved in parish youth clubs?  They are also critical of the attention, time, and resources that youth sports demand as well as reports of negative fan, coach, and athlete behavior.  They hope that by getting rid of Sunday sports in Catholic settings will take us back to bygone days when Sundays revolved around Church and family.

All of these questions deserve thoughtful conversation, reflection, and response. Little good is done by hand wringing and blaming others.  Acting precipitously may well make matters worse.

Time for Different Questions

Asking different questions can open doors to considering new ways forward. Here are questions that change the conversation and invite other possible responses.

• What is the mission of sports in a Catholic setting and how is that mission best achieved?
• Are sports in Catholic settings formational for children, parents and coaches? If so, what needs to happen to help all involved to be more faithful disciples of Jesus Christ and active members of our Catholic faith community?
• What would most likely happen if all Sunday athletic contests happening in Catholic settings were halted?

 A Catholic Framework for Youth Sports

Saint Don Bosco, founder of the Salesisans, took the approach of going out into the streets of Turin to meet young people where they are to connect with them. Upon building relationships with them, he started oratories where children could get educated, play sports, and pursue music and the arts within an intentional Christian community. In a similar way, in the 1930s Monsignor Bernard Sheil went into the streets of Chicago to reach out to young people who were not practicing their faith and started the CYO (Catholic Youth Organization) that was the birth of  youth ministry in the United States.

In both cases, these men of vision and faith understood sports as a way to reach young people and to form them as disciples of Jesus. Building on that foundation, our Catholic church believes that sports in Catholic settings today:

• are rooted in the mission and values of the Church, and are, therefore, youth ministry;
• train and prepare the coach as a youth ministry leader representing the faith community;
• form the team as a small Christian Community that is part of the larger Catholic community;
• help young people to grow as disciples of Jesus within the faith community.

This understanding and approach to youth sports in Catholic settings assigns particular roles and responsibilities to the different parties involved.        

• Players play – they learn to play, develop skills, win, and lose while modeling Catholic values and behaviors;
• Coaches teach – they are faith leaders and sport leaders who help the children grow;
• Officials officiate – they are trained to provide a safe experience according to the rules;
• Parents support – they provide encouragement and support while modeling Catholic behavior and values.

It is easy to give examples of athlete, coach, and parents misbehavior in Catholic settings. Yes, bad behavior is prevalent throughout youth sports, and is regrettably present in Catholic youth sports as well.  Yet this is why having our Catholic perspective present to offer another way is critical.

Our Catholic schools and parish youth ministry programs are becoming aware of the shortcomings of youth sports culture. We are responsible to find a better way, a faithful and Catholic way, to operate sports programs in Catholic settings. Programs such as the Notre Dame’s Play Like a Champion Today and the Diocese of Cleveland’s  CYO  are examples of ministerial approaches needed to build a Catholic culture in youth sports.

It is understandable to want to eliminate sports in Catholic settings on Sundays as a response to difficult challenges and real frustrations about low Church attendance and disinterest in Church activities more generally. Yet parents and athletes who participate in athletics in a ministry context believe that they are engaged in faith formation through sports. A strong case can be made that Catholic youth sports is our Church’s largest youth ministry program with the most volunteers, especially male volunteers.

It is critical that our Catholic Church stays involved in youth sports. Of course, Catholic youth sport programs should not schedule games and practices on Sunday mornings.  The issue is whether youth sports should be eliminated altogether on Sundays. Such an action would cripple many Catholic sports programs already struggling to schedule practices and games with limited available facilities.  Do we really believe that if sports were eliminated on Sundays, young people would become more active in their faith? It seems more likely that they would leave Catholic youth sports programs for other non-religious youth sport programs.

We need to recapture the evangelical zeal of Saint Don Bosco and Bishop Sheil and go to where young people and their parents are.  Let’s use sports to bring our children closer to the Lord, back to the Lord’s Eucharistic table, and more fully into the Christian community.

Dobie Moser, D. Min, is the Executive Director of Youth and Young Adult Ministry and CYO in the Cleveland Diocese. He has served on the U.S. Olympic Committee and has trained thousands of coaches in Catholic settings throughout the U.S. and Canada. He is a contributing author of the 2015 book, Youth Sport and Spirituality, Catholic Perspectives from University of Notre Dame Press.

In Support of a Resting on Sunday by Brian Milone:

Outside of the occasional tournament, the Valley Catholic Sports League does not play on Saturday's or Sunday's. A few reasons for this are as follows. First of all, other athletic programs/organizations (club teams and other organizations) have consumed many of our student-athletes. These programs have either taken student-athletes completely away from our schools, or have put our families in a position that leaves our student-athletes with little time for anything else other than sports. We feel a well-rounded student-athlete is a more prepared student-athlete for the future. 

Furthermore, it is difficult to find facilities to accommodate games on the weekends. Our schools use their church and school parking lots, which many have 4-5 Masses on Sundays. This makes it difficult to have the space available for sporting events. When it comes to using other facilities, we find ourselves competing with those same organizations mentioned above for space, not to mention the cost that can be an issue for many of our schools.  

Finally, the other reason is something that has trickled down from our local Catholic High School’s, which are regulated by CIF (Southern Section). They are prohibited from participating in any school organized event on Sunday’s, and we have followed that same rule for our Catholic Elementary Schools. It is our understanding that Sunday is a time to pray, get away from the grind, and be with family in some other environment outside of competitive sports.  

 Brian Milone is the Director of the Valley Catholic Sports League in Southern California.

Building Stronger Teams: Make Thanksgiving an Everyday Meal

Today's blog comes from Bill Matthews, LPC. Bill is a counselor in the Detroit area, and a Play Like a Champion certified trainer 

In Canada, it’s the second Monday of October. Here in the USA, it’s the fourth Thursday of November. Thanksgiving is a national holiday, a day of expressing gratitude for the blessing of the preceding year. But what if we celebrated thanks-giving every day, in a metaphorical sense, as a way of building stronger sports teams?

One of the first things most parents teach their kids is to say, “Thank You.” Think of the countless times you have said to your young children (or your parents said to you when you were a young child), “What do you say?…” to prompt the child to utter these words. But do kids today really have any idea what it means to be thankful? What’s the difference between being thankful and grateful? And how does that translate to building a stronger team culture?

Practicing gratitude has benefits that go beyond having a polite kid. Studies show that people who practice gratitude feel 25% happier, are more likely to be kind and helpful to others, are more enthusiastic, interested, and determined, and even sleep better.

Kids and teens who regularly practice gratitude get higher grades, are more satisfied with their lives, are more integrated socially and show fewer signs of depression. Research within sports has identified a relationship between gratitude among adolescent athletes and increased team satisfaction, lower burnout, and greater overall well-being. 

But what exactly do we mean by gratitude? According to Greg Chertok, M.Ed., CC-AASP, a sport psychology counselor and fitness trainer, and member of the American College of Sports Medicine, gratitude can be defined as “an estimate of gain coupled with the judgment that someone else is responsible for that gain.” Estimating and appreciating gain (performing well; being promoted from bench player to starter; recognizing physical improvement) and identifying that other people were involved in making it happen, are important steps towards feeling grateful. In other words, I can be thankful that I did well on my exam, but I should be grateful to my study partners (teammates) for helping prepare me to do well.

So how can parents and coaches help young athletes practice gratitude in meaningful ways so that our kids learn what it means to be thankful and grateful?

Here are a few ideas:

•  Coach team members to express their appreciation for one other. After practice, have players take turns going around the circle and express what they all appreciate about a teammate today. Make sure that the gratitude is spread around the entire team. The first few times you do it, it will likely feel uncomfortable for you and the team. But when you start to hear the amazing things kids will begin to say to one another genuinely, don’t be surprised if it quickly becomes a favorite team ritual.
• Acknowledge the small stuff. When we practice mindfulness it helps us to be present in our
• relationships and pay attention to our environment. So often today we go through the day distracted, out of sync with the people around us. Kids typically have their heads in a tablet, laptop, game system or headphones. Be intentional about noticing the little things they do to help and support each other and the team.
•  Make a gratitude jar or box. Have some scratch paper and a pencil nearby. Put them in a convenient place so that team members can write down things they feel grateful to the team for and place the paper in the jar/box. Open the occasionally to read what everyone has written.
•  Parents - make gratitude part of your children’s bedtime routine. Take a few minutes at the end of each day to show appreciation for the little things in your lives for which you are grateful. It is important for parents to model gratitude. It’s a great way to end each day.
•  Develop gratitude traditions – trips to hospitals, shelters, honoring appropriate fan behavior, expressions of gratitude to officials and opponents all help young athletes connect as part of a larger human community.
•  Connect gratitude to the GROW model. Teach your players to connect gratitude to Goals, Relationships, Ownership and [keeping] Winning [in perspective].

Here’s a great example Chertok shares in his article: former Olympian Carl Lewis reports in his autobiography, Inside Track: Autobiography of Carl Lewis, that feeling grateful to his competitors became part of his pre-competition routine. He wrote that, without opponents, he could not have been personally challenged. He could not have experienced victory without opponents. There would be no gold medals without opponents. Lewis chose to embrace the presence of his competitors as required figures in his quest for performance excellence. It was an attitudinal shift that served him well.

Too often we reserve expressions of gratitude for end-of-the-season awards banquets, and pre-established award categories (e.g. MVP). Why not make gratitude, thanks-giving, a part of your team’s everyday experience?  Try it, and watch your team GROW stronger!

Teammates

Today's blog was written by Erin Geraghty. Erin is a senior psychology major at Notre Dame and a student in the Social Foundations of Coaching, a course taught by Play Like a Champion Founding Director Clark Power and Program Director Kristin Sheehan.

Teams are a great model for the communities we will be a part of and the relationships we will form throughout our life. Teams highlight the importance of cooperation and hard work, and show us how to foster strong relationships and support networks. As a freshman on my high school’s varsity cross country team, I spent very little time running with my classmates. Instead, I found myself spending hours running and talking with older girls. At first, I was skeptical about being away from people my own age and I felt out-of-place, but a few girls in particular took me under their wings, made me feel welcomed, and taught me a lot.

 

The individuals who I found myself spending hours every day with became so much more than just my teammates. They allowed me be who I was and they affirmed that person. This loving and supportive community made me feel comfortable and allowed me to grow in confidence, as well as in my understanding of what true friendship and leadership looks like. They led me by example and made me feel like a part of a rare and wonderful tight-knit community. We shared our successes and disappointments and our ups and downs daily.

Far too many tragedies rocked my high school community during my time there, namely the death of four students by suicide. After another friend was taken from us far too early, I wanted to grab my running shoes and an iPod and just run by myself until I physically couldn’t anymore. I just wanted to run away from all the hurt, all the mess, all the problems. However, looking at my teammates, I knew it was my time to step up, to assume the caring position my friends had held for me in previous years and amidst similarly trying times, and to live up to what it meant to be a captain. So instead of driving home that day, I headed to practice to be with my teammates. We talked when we wanted to, we cried when we needed to, we sprinted up hills and screamed on the cliffs above the Pacific Ocean, trying to get it all out. It didn’t really matter what we did, it just mattered that we did it together.

all pictures courtesy of Erin Geraghty

My days of running on a formal team are over, but I still feel as the presence of my teammates when I run. I will always carry with me the lessons and values they taught me. When I feel overwhelmed or helpless, I drop everything, lace up my running shoes, and head out. Forest Gump wisely stated “Now, it used to be I ran to get where I was going. I never thought it would take me anywhere.” I couldn’t agree more. I started running with the hopes that I might make a few friends and get in shape for lacrosse, but I didn’t know that running would become an outlet for me, that it could renew me in a way that not much else can, and that it would teach me how to act as a “teammate” to friends, family, and all those I encounter throughout my life.